It happens to nearly everyone but why does nobody talk about it? The thigh rub is hell and we need to do something about it...
Do your thighs meet in the middle? If so, then welcome, friend! This is a circle of trust. There will be no mocking here; no pointing and laughing. Together, we’re going to finally bring a topic out in the open.
It’s not glamorous or sexy, but it has gone unspoken in society for far too long now and needs to be given a good airing – quite literally, because the topic is inner-thigh rubbing. BOOM. There, I said it. And nobody died.
I remember the first time I ever spoke about my summer affliction. I was 18 (that’s about six years of silent wincing and secret Sudocrem application on beach holidays, folks) and in Paris with two friends for a post A-levels holiday. It was July, it was boiling, and as skint students with a moderate fear of foreign public transport systems, we did loads of walking.
Because it was our first time in Paris we’d decided to dress as we imagined people who had cool, romantic encounters in Paris dressed – mainly floral sundresses from Dorothy Perkins – and, it being boiling and the footless tights revolution of ’05 yet to kick off, we were bare-legged.
After about two days of sweaty traipsing round le hotspots touristique, one of us brought it up. I don’t remember which of us it was, but it would have gone a bit like: “Do your… um, I mean… does it hurt when… like, y’know… are your legs a bit… raw?” “YES!” we all shrieked back in blessed relief. And then we realised we were normal, and it was a beautiful moment.
Even more beautiful was that we solved the problem together by cutting off pairs of nude tights into comfort shorts, and wore them merrily underneath our frocks for the rest of the week. C’est le mode de Britannique, innit?
Since then, I’ve been on a mission to bust the taboo. Because like IBS and those single, wiry hairs that start growing out of your neck in your mid-20s, it’s something that bloody loads of people experience yet NOBODY TALKS ABOUT.
If ever mentioned at all, it’s dismissed as the preserve of the seriously overweight (see: ‘chub rub’) – not pretty standard, size 12-14 legs like mine. Every summer I watch women with thighs no smaller than my own, cheerfully strolling about with legs al fresco, and truly don’t understand how they’re doing it. “Is it Lanacane?” I want to bellow after them from the ice cream queue, “Or do you have special frictionless skin? How do I get some? ENLIGHTEN ME.”
But the most likely truth is that while these ladies are all smiles and freely wafting chiffon on the outside, they’re secretly nipping off to the loo every half hour to whack a bit of hand cream on the damage and sit with their legs apart, quietly groaning.
If we’re all suffering, sisters, then why must we do it in silence? It’s possible that the reason our olden-day counterparts always wore stockings wasn’t the damned patriarchy, but avoiding an uncomfortable incident on the way to the hat shop.
From time to time, thankfully, I’ll find myself in a thigh-chafe ‘safe space’ and be able to discuss it openly. My flatmate coined the term ‘lady-rubbage’ at uni after a particularly painful summer walk, and it has been a source of endless debate and cosmetic experimentation ever since. Is the desirable result, we ponder, dry skin that doesn’t grip, or, um, lubed skin that doesn’t rub? “Before we ever talked about lady-rubbage, I used to take a little container of talc out with me everywhere,” admits another friend. Noted.
Of course, one option is just to keep your tights on for 12 months of the year – and believe me, if body temperature and comments from strangers weren’t a consideration, I’d be all over it. But the best solution I’ve found in recent years is rocking a natty line in brightly coloured cycling shorts under dresses, hopeful that they say ‘on-trend 90s revival’ rather than ‘meaty thighs prone to friction rash’.
Rather than a solution, though, what I’d really like is awareness. Let’s all talk about it, girls! Let’s get Beyoncé on side! Let’s make it officially ok to stand up and say, “No, I can’t spontaneously climb to the top of that hill because it will rip my inner thighs to shreds. Warn me next time and I’ll pack the comfort shorts.” Is it really such a leap?